An Analysis of Effective or Disruptive Lived Experiences on Women's Peace Post-Marriage: A Case Study of Women Aged 20 to 30 in the City of Ahram

Document Type : The Quarterly Jornal

Authors

1 Senior student of Women's Studies

2 Assistant Professor, Department of Islamic Education, Farhangian University, Tehran, Iran.

10.22081/jiss.2024.66119.1996

Abstract

Marriage establishes one of the most fruitful relationships where spouses, through having a positive and harmonious relationship, can determine their mental health and tranquility. This study aims to explore the lived experiences that either positively or negatively impact the tranquility of married women who have been in their marriage for 1 to 5 years. The research employed a qualitative approach using thematic analysis and the Atreide Sterling technique through semi-structured interviews and purposive sampling. The target group consisted of 13 married women aged 20 to 30 years from the city of Ahram in Bushehr, Iran. The MAXQDA2020 software was used for thematic analysis. Results from the textual data revealed that the overarching category of effective communication skills includes organizing factors such as attentive emotional relationships, supportive and accommodating relationships, value and moral alignment, and interactions in communication with children. Categories related to ineffective interactions and disturbances to women's tranquility include organizing themes such as conflicts with the spouse's family, excessive interactions with the spouse's friends, dysfunctional relationships and reactions, and economic problems. In line with the findings of this study, it can be concluded that training in effective interpersonal communication techniques and addressing cognitive needs can improve relationships, correct ineffective interactions, and reduce interpersonal conflicts among couples.

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